Guest Post: What Fat Chicks Really Think About Skinny Women

Before I hand over the reins of the this post, I just wanted to say that Deb is one of my favorite people on the planet. She was unbelievably kind and helpful when my dad went through his hemorrhage this past November. I truly consider her a long lost sister or cousin, or something a little above par than just another blog friend. She’s even more gorgeous and funny in person. One of the few people that makes me pee in laughter. So without further ado……I give you the Smoothie Girl herself:

Hello faithful Eden’s Eats readers,

I’m Deb from SmoothieGirlEatsToo As I’m usually so politically correct on my own blog, and Eden gave me the opportunity to guest post on her irreverent blog, I thought that I would really mouth off:  say dirty words, make generalizations and really piss people off.  It’s like a kid in a candy store.  Or a bull in a china shop.  You can decide.

You’re asking yourself, “What gives Deb the right to claim to know what fat chicks think?”

I am a fat chick.  Well, perhaps not physically  Not anymore anyway.  Even though I’ve lost about 100 pounds, I am still a fat chick deep down inside.  This is what comes natural to me:  eating too much food for purposes of enjoyment and not for fuel. Wanting to ‘treat myself’ because I deserve it.  Not wanting to exercise.  Wanting to eat a chimichanga and not a grilled chicken salad (dressing on the side, natch).

So with that introduction, I will now report from my perspective as a fat chick, what fat chicks really feel about skinny girls:

  • We think that being skinny comes easy to you.  There are several reasons why we think this:
  1. You have no emotional attachment to food.  You could eat a cupcake or a twig and it would make no difference to you emotionally.  As long as it has enough fuel you to get you to the mall to buy your cute clothes, that is all that matters.
  2. You forget to eat. This has never happened to a fat chick. Ever. A fat chick who forgets to eat is either asleep or in a coma.  We fat chicks think that people who forget to eat are from Pluto. (Eden’s note: might I add crazy emaciated eating disordered girls don’t forget to eat, they just chose not to).
  3. You barely eat anything. When you do finally remember to eat (at 9pm, without having had lunch), you eat 1/2 of your Happy Meal (why the hell did you buy a Happy Meal and not a REAL meal?) and toss the rest in the trash (True Story/Pluto alert)
  4. We assume that you have never exercised a day in your life.  Unless we actually know you or see you jogging, we figure that you popped out of the womb just as you are (well, proportionally smaller or your mother wouldn’t have made it though the ordeal, now would she?)  We figure you might not even own athletic shoes because they might take up precious room for the Louboutins.
  • Unlike you, the only apparel we can’t grow out of is shoes.  And handbags.  When I met my husband, he thought I was a white Imelda Marcos.  To a fat chick, there is joy in buying shoes and handbags, and makeup.
  • We are envious that you can buy clothes anywhere. Cute clothes.  We cannot.  Back when I was physically fat, department stores did not carry large sizes.  And specialty shops- I called them “Fat Chick Shops” only offered gross, frumpy crap.  I’m FAT, dammit!  I’m not 67!
  • You CAN eat whatever you want. Yes, this contradicts #3 above, but there isn’t much logic going on here as you might have guessed.  Whatever fattening food that you eat (assuming you eat it all, once you’ve remembered) goes into the Skinny Girl Bermuda Triangle.  Poof.  Gone.  Never will touch your thighs.
  • We think that your life is perfect. After all, to a fat chick (now I know I’m generalizing, but only a little bit), the most important thing in life is being skinny.  When I was fat, I would have rather been ugly and skinny than pretty and fat.  If I had a dime for every time someone said “You have such a pretty FACE”(emphasis on FACE), I’d be a bazillionaire.
  • Unless you are truly emaciated, we never suspect an eating disorder.  Just just envy you beyond what you can imagine for not caring about food and having an amazing metabolism.f (Eden’s Note: I always suspect an eating disorder. Than again, Deb wouldn’t consider me a “fat chick” even though part of me really thinks I am one as I agree with most of the points).

I hope that you have enjoyed this little window into how fat chicks see skinny girls.  Now, having seen the other side of the coin, I know that we fat chicks don’t have the whole story and are very confused about many of the realities of being thin.  Nevertheless, you can still feel free to scream at me here on dear Eden’s blog.  But please don’t go over to my blog and do that.  We’re all about the butterflies and unicorns over there.

Eden’s Note: I love you, Deb. I hope I make the skinny bitch cut off!

57 thoughts on “Guest Post: What Fat Chicks Really Think About Skinny Women

  1. Loved this guest post, Deb!! I can see why Eden loves you. You’ve got the perfect balance of snark. Skinny Girl Bemuda Triangle?! LOL.

    Like Eden, I have ED in the brain and suspect everyone of some level of ED. It’s kind of an annoying radar I can’t turn off.

    By the way, skinny people can’t buy everything they want. I’ve been pretty skinny all my life, and just could not fit into certain clothes, most of all revealing tops that sink down your bosom.

    When I was young, I couldn’t fit into my skirts, although they were the smallest size, and once, while running around the house (and there were 8 guests!!!), the skirt fell down to my ankles. I was wearing the most embarrassing brightly colored purple and yellow and orange underwear, too. Urgh.

    Also, I was in the dance team in primary school, and none of the costumes fit me. The teacher told me, exasperated, that there is “no size zero.” Turns out in America, there is. Ironic.

    • Sophia, I had the hardest time finding a prom dress! I was scary skinny at the time, I had to have one tailor made. I looked really pathetic in it it because it kept almost exposing my “mosquito bites” that I had as boobies back then! Hahaha, I said boobies, wow, I’m immature!

    • Hi Sophia!

      Bahah, purple, orange and yellow underwear- how embarrassing to flash them but I need to keep on the lookout for some!

      As a fat girl, I never in a million years would have imagined it hard to clothe a thin person. I figured there’s always the tween department (and they have all the cute stuff anyway). It’s only reading about or knowing thin girls that I learned these things- it was a shock to me!

  2. I’m not surprised you two are friends- very similar styles, both talented writers :)
    Fun post to read, and the picture makes me want to run away and live at the beach, by the way… I’ll have to check out her blog too!

  3. What about girls of supposedly normal weight with big butts and boobs that clothes never seem to fit the way they are supposed to? We deserve recognition ;-) this is a great post Deb! Definitely on par with eden’s style :-)

  4. Sorry, but this is not the way all fat girls think about skinny girls. I realize that a lot of this is for entertainment appeal, but it’s dangerous to write for everyone in a large category of people as if your personal viewpoints were representative. It encourages stereotyping. I also think it’s not true that being “fat” inside means you don’t want to exercise. Exercising was never the problem for me, it was the disordered relationship with food. I think this type of writing also makes light of the very serious problems people have with eating disorders related to overeating.

    I’ve lost 160 lbs. or so, and am unfortunately still somewhat fat outside (I had/have that much to lose) but am now no longer psychologically “fat” since I’ve cured my emotional relationship with food. Since I’ve been overweight all of my life, I think I can speak for being a fat person who doesn’t fit into the stereotypical mindset you’re putting fat people in. Speak for yourself, not for everyone, and you can never go wrong.

    • Hi Screaming,

      I totally respect what you are saying. And I am very, very glad that this is NOT how all fat girls view skinny girls. I did say in the beginning that this is my perspective and yes, of course there is entertainment value in hyperbole. But there is also value in it because it reflects my extreme view on the situation. But truth be known, THIS is exactly how I felt about skinny girls. You may have also noticed that I said that this list had no logic to it. But this is definitely how I saw the world and I thought that it would be interesting for Eden’s readers to see how I felt.

      I also think that it’s wonderful that you have healed your emotional issues with eating and that you’ve lost all the weight and that you have no problem exercising. You are a success story.

  5. I kept nodding my head in agreement with it all! I’m not physically fat, but inside I am. I’ve been every ED listed and I suppose I always will be to a degree. Intuitive eating would never work for me as it is my intuition to eat 4 boxes of Krispy Kreme donuts – and then have pizza later. So I just stay away from it all, no moderation for me. But like Eden, when I see skinny chics, I always assume some type of ED. Perhaps I shouldn’t but I base it on myself.

    I love Deb’s blog and have been reading it a long time – so neat that you are all friends!

  6. soooo….many things I want to say but I won’t because I blather too much :) But thank you for this, Deb and Eden. Learned a lot! I never knew that about obsessions with shoes and accessories…But I’ve noticed that shoe size can change if you add/gain weight.

    I stick to earrings and scarves. Always a safe choice and well, I’m all about safe choices!

  7. Oh Eden and Smoothie Girl, I love you! This is freakin’ hilarious.

    I think I have a fat chick inside of me (although I’m thin) because I NEVER forget to eat. I believe in hoarding shoes and purses cuz they will always look good on me. I think naturally skinny girls are aliens and I’m jealous of them. And the list goes on.

    Love this!

  8. I love you Deb and I love you Eden, but I have to kind of be a bitch and say that this rubbed me the wrong way. I thought it was going to be completely satirical and end with you saying you were just kidding, but…

    It kind of perpetuates every stereotype and “myth” that Eden writes about in relation to being skinny and EDs. Granted I’m a bit sensitive, but what if I had guest posted about how skinny girls think of fat people and listed that you were lazy, obsessed with food, never try to exercise, stuff your face with Big Macs, etc.?

    While I love you guys and know it’s half-joking, it still rubbed me the wrong way a little. So all skinny people are being judged and stereotyped regardless and their relationship to food and exercise can’t be “normal?” Being underweight or overweight really deals with the same issues, and it’s usually not food.

    Again, I know you’re going to hate me for this, but it seems like a complete turn from what I know you guys to joke about. (Even if I was still overweight, I would still post this, by the way.)

    • I cant speak for Deb (or for “fat girls”) but of course I don’t think its ever about the food. I think Deb was being satirical, but I can see how you might get put off. I think what Deb was trying to show is that its difficult as a person trying to lose weight to see “thin” people be all non-chalant about it. Then again, I can’t really relate, but I understand the frustration. And I think I’m horrible and that when I see a super thin person, I’m quick to judge some sort of eating issue, I dont know I think I have that weird “ED-radar”. I’m sorry it rubbed you he wrong way, it was only meant to be in good fun.

    • Oh Abby, this truly breaks my heart. Really. I’m so sad that I failed to convey my message without offending you of all people!! FAIL.

      All that I can say is that this is how my fat girl inside me saw skinny girls. I didn’t think that any of the points (as illogical and contradictory as they were) were bad in any way (unlike being lazy, gluttonous, etc). Forgetting to eat, not caring about food, having a great metabolism etc- those aren’t bad things. They are just things that I couldn’t relate to in any way.

      I want to explain that much of this perspective was a result of being jealous and bitter- not nice qualities. Those are also qualities that eat at a person’s insides and makes them feel even worse than they already are. All I can say is that it was very, very painful emotionally, to be fat and it’s a demon that I fight every day of my life.

      I adore you, Abby, so this really made me sad.

      • No sad! No sad!
        Like I said, I am probably too sensitive. I guess it didn’t seem like your personal account as much as just a general satirical view of n how “you” saw “skinny bitches.” You know I’m not offended or weirded out–it takes much more than that–but it seemed so out of character. Again, I think I was just surprise–not that you felt that way, as that’s entirely expected–but that it was presented kind of crass.

        Just my opinion, and you know I get it completely. No sad!

      • Thanks Abby and that’s the beauty of the blog world- that we can express ourselves even if we may not always see things the same way.

        I am sorry about the ‘crass’ assessment too- and Eden was kind enough to edit out all of the words ‘skinny bitches’ in the whole post except the title- which she subsequently did change at my request. I also added in the original post that my definition of a ‘skinny bitch’ was someone who was not obese!! I hope that helps explaining the shock value of what the post probably had.

        Hugs.

  9. Deb – you are such an awesome person…I love this post! I love your sense of humor and sarcasm. I also love the insight you shed on so many things. I suppose I’d be considered a “skinny bitch” although I hope you don’t think I’m really a bitch?? But I definitely know there is a lot of truth to what you say here and I am suddenly educated to think before I speak!

    You rock! And Eden…you rock too. :)

  10. This was a truly enjoyable post! Having been on both sides of the weight spectrum–I can definitely relate to most of these points! I remember always thinking that thin people didn’t have to put forth any effort to say thin.

    Of course, I also thought that thin people ate whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted! That may be due the media’s portrayal of actresses/models who say “I eat whatever I want all the time–I just ate 1/2 lb. cheeseburger and fries!” haha

    Now I know that I was completely wrong considering the fact that I work my ass off to stay where I want to be! I guess skinny people deserve a little more credit. :)

    • Yes, I hear you- boy was I wrong in thinking that being ‘normal weight’ or slim takes no effort. It takes a huge amount of effort- at least FOR ME. I’m sure that there are people for whom it is effortless and they struggle to put on weight no matter what they do (not even having an eating disorder etc). But I agree, it’s wayyyy harder than I ever thought before! Skinny people deserve a lot of credit!

  11. Love this post! And being a thin girl people do assume that either A) I stuff my face with food and I don’t gain a pound or B) I just don’t eat. No one ever seems to think that I eat healthy because I want to be fit, I workout to stay in shape, and I make sure I don’t eat every damn cookie in sight. Being “skinny” isn’t easy lol I am an inner fatty, I love food which is why when I indulge it’s amazing. :) Hope to see more!

  12. Was thinking about this post today and realized that I always assume that the “normal” or “overweight” people (men AND women) seem so much freer and can enjoy food and have fun without feeling self-conscious but…from reading Deb’s post and Eden’s previous myth post it seems that both sides suffer from this pre-conceived notion on occasion. Not that this is an all-or-nothing thing but you’ve both managed to tackle one of my biases/myths/whatevers. Thanks for that.

    PS. Not sure if this makes any sense whatsoever now that I wrote it but either way it helped me so that’s a plus :)

    • McIntosh- your comments are always very thoughtful and always appreciated. Funny you should mention being normal/over weight and carefree. I know a couple of people who are truly like that. Or at least I think that they are. Caution to the wind- eat, drink and be happy and exude confidence while being significantly overweight. When I voiced this to a mutual friend of ours, she disagreed and said that the desire to lose weight never leaves (she was giving me her perspective and her opinion regarding our friend) as they had been on weight watchers together years ago.

      For me, being heavy was so much more painful than the significant effort (and TIME!!!!) that it takes me to be of normal weight.

      Abby and I have been emailing each other all morning and she came up with the perfect summary: “The grass is always greener on the other side”… That was very much one of the points to my post and I hope that some people were able to read it that way.

      • For the record, I have the same thoughts as MacIntosh at times as well. I always think that people who are “normal” or overweight have a much more carefree attitude about food and not some manic energy towards their choices. I know this is flawed thinking, obviously, but I still feel that way sometimes. They don’t care and I don’t want to. Anyway, I love Deb. The end.

    • Yep, you summed it up nicely. In the end, no one wins. Thin or overweight, no one is happy! So why even battle? lets all just throw in the towel and try not to give a shit.

  13. Oh, I’m loving all of these guest posts: it’s so fun to see ‘moderate’ bloggers come over to the dark side ;) I much prefer it when the gloves come off and the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, though obviously the regular posts are just as great in terms of being razor sharp and on point.

    I could throttle people that forget to eat. I just don’t see how it’s possible…but then, I am a fat girl in mentality (and have been several times in weight) so emotionally I will always invest too much time in food.

    I can’t think of a single one of these points that I disagree with!

    xxx

    • Jessica- thank you and funny about going over to the dark side. I really did/do feel that way. :-) So many people saying that they have fat girl mentalities or that they are fat inside. I wonder how many normal weight people feel that way?!

  14. Lovely guest post! Just to let you know the other side of the coin a little and give you some comfort: I’ve always been on the skinny side for my whole life (as well before I got an ED), but even then my life wasn’t perfect at all. In fact, I was very unhappy most times. And I’ve *always* found it very hard to find clothes that fit me because I have the bone structure of a boy (with shoulders but no waist and hips). Someday, I acidentally ended up in the men’s department at H&M, and from that day on it got much better because I finally found jeans that fit me. I still buy half of my clothes in the men’s department.

    • As Abby said to me in an email today “the Grass is always Greener” … ain’t it the truth? And don’t you love H&M? I loved it when I was about 20 pounds heavier and while I didn’t have trouble actually finding clothes in ‘regular’ shops or dept stores, H&M just fit me well. In fact (true story), I’ve been shopping at H&M for 20+ years as they started in Sweden. I still have timeless clothes from then and the quality was quite a bit sturdier then. (Sorry, for the ‘aside’)

  15. hahaha deb is a genius like for real a genius! and i love you both a lot because you’re awesome and honest additions to this crazy blog world of us crazy people

  16. I was shopping with my sister right after I decided to begin my wishy-washy ED recovery, and I saw the most gorgeous Mediterranean-patterned cream dress. I loved it so much that I took it off the mannequin (it was at a (posh!) secondhand store so there was only one). When I tried it on though, I was never so disgusted at my body – no cleavage, bones and everything icky showing – the dress transformed into something terrible on my body. I think that was one of the turning points in my decision to recover. Luckily, I convinced my sister to buy it, so perhaps it’ll give me a second chance to wear it with pride!

  17. I feel all of this even though I’m not “fat”. I am horribly envious of my petite thin friends all the time and this is exactly how I feel! #2 is just ridiculous. I mean, before I finish my meal, I’m already thinking about what I will eat for my next meal. (><)

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