People are programmed to compare.
We go to several stores to compare prices on the exact same item.
Or we will spend several hours at bakery comparing identical cookies, debating which one would be less noticeable on our hips. Then we compare our hips with that emaciated girl on the treadmill which is a totally unfair comparison since she has no hips.
And my personal favorite, we compare our exes.
Well, Joe was so good-looking but kind of an ass hole cause he was trying to make up for the fact his penis was comparable to a pixie stick….And Alan was nerdy but never disappointed. I just pretended he was a “cool” nerdy guy like the dude from Spiderman when I was in bed with him. Or I just wouldn’t look at him…
(Wow, I just wrote penis on my blog. I’m sorry, Foodbuzz. And family members, and all those who respect me.)
Anyhow, we compare all the time. And most of us like to compare ourselves the most. However, I think this is a vicious habit we need to learn to break.
Comparing yourself is a guarantee you will feel like shit. And there are many reasons why i
- Usually, the comparison is unfair. You can’t compare dolphins to porcupines. Or unicorns to ponies (ok, maybe that you can and ponies are way better). Anyhow, as a result, you’ll always come off bad if you look at someone’s strengths (including what they have, like fancy houses, fancy cameras, cars, abs of steel, a pointy stick on top of their head) and your weaknesses (and your muffin top or the fact that you are a mini horse).
- Even if you compare strength to strength, there will always be those who are better, and those who are worse. Joan Rivers will always be funnier than me and Kim Kardashian will always be dumber than me.
- You end up resenting others for doing well, without really knowing the true person. I make fun of bloggers so often that I’m sure people think I just hate bloggers. Not true in the least, and yes, I am a little jealous they get so many blog related job offers and fans, but I’m sure most of them are nice people. Don’t hate on anybody just because they are successful. I hate Kim Kardashian cause shes a brat, not because she’s “successful”.
Ok, enough complaining on how we compare so much and how bad it is. Lets get to the bottom line. How do we stop comparing?
- Acknowledge The Comparison: and move on. Be aware you are doing it is a great step since most of the time people have no idea they are doing it. Then, try to pause, cease the comparison, and move on.
“Yea, here I am, comparing myself to this other seemingly richer/skinner/prettier girl….but I bet her shit really stinks….oh well…oh look, a bird…”
just move on.
- Notice What YOU Are Good At: Yea, so now you are aware you are comparing yourself. Now try to count your blessings and your strong qualities. My inner dialogue can sound like this,
“So she’s skinner/prettier/smarter etc…but can she make chocolate doughnuts? Does she even have the pleasure of eating such beauties? I think not. And she probably doesn’t even know how to fart and what a pain that much be. And that sucks for her. Go me!”
- What You Have Is Good Enough: If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. No matter how many pounds you lose/gain, no matter how many things you own, no matter how big your boobs/”member” is … you’ll never have enough. Lear to realize that what you have is already enough. Focus on you, not comparing yourself to others. If you have some sort of roof over your head, food on the table (even if its non organic and totally artificial), and people who love you, you are lucky.
And let’s be real, if you are reading this post, you for sure have more than enough. So I’m curious, who do YOU find yourself comparing to? Coworkers? Siblings? Other bloggers? Celebrities?