I think its time for another round of stuff bloggers dont write about.
This time, I’ll address “the closet” and “coming out of it”. No, not THAT closet, the “blog lurking closet”.
I don’t know why, but I’ve gotten several notifcations lately that I have new suscribers. But I don’t recognize their emails and most dont have blogs. What does this mean? I suspect that there are a lot of lurkers (people who read but don’t comment) around.
This is not a bad thing, its great to have ANY readers. But I really like it when readers come out of the lurking closet and comment. Even if its mean or just a “hello”.
But like in real social life, people can get shy. In fact, I lurked blogs for a long time before I got the courage to comment. Sometimes, bloggers get so many comments that I just assume I’ll get lost. And being a busy bee, I don’t comment unless I really got something to say. I’m not one to say just “Yum!” or “I love oatmeal too!”. Not that those comments are no appreciated. Whoa, I’m going off topic!
Anyhow, I want you lurkers out there to take a step, even a small one, out of the lurking closet. Here are some tips to get you started:
Don’t worry about offending (at least me anyway): I’m lucky to have not been seriously offended by anyone, but in this blog,you can write anything. Feel free to let me know if you disagree with me or hate me. I will probably spend a night crying and a few days writing blog posts about it, but give it to me anyway. I can’t speak for other bloggers. As a general rule, if you have something nasty, it won’t be welcomed. Its ok to have healthy disagreements and debates, but not to flat out accuse anyone of anything without merit. Bloggers have hearts.
Just say hello! Sometimes, even a two-word comment (with a smiley at the end) makes my day.
Don’t worry about language or grammar. Have you read my blog!? I’m laden with improper English and spelling mistakes. I’m not writing a thesis, its a blog that I do almost daily and I have little time to proofread. Feel free to comment in any language you are comfortable in. And of course, I curse like a sailor so don’t worry if you add a shit or two in there.
Want to stay anonymous? If you’re shy about commenting here because you have a secret crush on me, just use an alias as a name and a fake email address. But I find that people that stay “anonymous” are really just people that want to write something bitchy. I always give an alias when I order from coffee shops, just use one for commenting if you are shy!
You don’t have to impress anyone. Be yourself so that everyone can get to know your personality.
Leave out links in your comments. Sometimes its ok, but I’ve noticed adding a link into your comment could get your comment flagged as spam
Be Careful: This might seem to contradict the first tip , but keep in mind that certain people are very touchy towards certain sensitive subjects. For example, if its an eating disorder recovery blog, I won’t recommend you write, “I lost SO much weight on THIS diet! Its the best! yay no carbs!”.
Read other comments to sense the ‘mood’ of the place. You don’t want to sound all bright and cheery in a blog about someone’s depressions.
Dont comment unless you’ve read the posts: Its like declaring you don’t like a food before trying it. I can usually tell if someone has read my post or not. I know most probably just skim but it makes you look bad when you comment about something that contradicts what was said in the post.
So………Lurkers: Tell me a bit about yourself- who you are, where you’re from, what you do, what you like the most and what you would like to see on this site.
Non-lurkers: Got any tips of your own? What trick have you used to de-lurk some readers?
O yes, and my little teaser from yesterday? Alright, I’ll spill the recipe:
- 2 cups all-purpose flour (for a good gluten free version, use 1 cup almond meal and 1 cup brown rice flour)
- 1/2 cup sugar or fake sweetener of choice
- 1 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- dash of ground nutmeg
- dash of cinnamon
- 1/3 cup canola oil
- 1 cup milk of choice (I used raw milk which had no lactose)
- 1 large egg
- 1 tablespoon grated lemon rind
- 1 cup blueberries
Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Grease your doughnut or muffin pan (these are basially blueberry muffins, but I firmly believe they taste better with a hole in the middle). Whisk/beat the egg and the rest of the wet ingredients. Set aside. Combine flour and the rest of the dry ingredients in a separate bowl. Incorporate the dry ingredients by whisking them into the wet mixture a little at a time until its all incorporated. Lastly, fold in the blueberries and lemon rind. Pour into the greased tins and bake for about 15 minuets or until the doughnuts “spring back” when you lightly touch them. I suggest you remove them while they are still hot as I left one of them to cool in the pan and it got stuck. Hide these if you live with others, because they might just disappear on ya.