I think if by some miracle I ever decide to grow kids in my uterus, I’m bound to have twins.
Twins are kind of cool. I grew up wanting one. She could go to school for me and take my math tests or attend any social function I wanted to pass on. Plus, you can totally mess with people. And then of course, you always have a built in friend like these two.
Anyhow, twins may be in my destiny. You see my mother was a twin (a fraternal twin brother) and HER twin brother had identical twins. Twins are a common theme in my genes. But while in treatment, I noticed they were a common theme there too. You see, I’ve heard of a few cases of one or both twins developing some sort of eating disorder.
After some thought and experience with my own “twin-ish” family. I’m not surprised.
Twins are a complex. There have this incredible bond. But there is often a stronger need for comparing and competition with one another. Because twins spend a lot of time together, they tend to want to do the same things together, and that can include eating. At least thats the way it manifested with the twins I knew with eating issues.
I couldn’t imagine what it would be like to see someone look exactly like me but at a much lower or higher weight. No matter how much alike they are, the public will always try to distinguish one twin as “bigger,” “thinner,” or “prettier.” Multiples may feel driven to rebel against such labeling, or try to gain control over their physical appearance by using food to compensate.
Because siblings will often have some degree of competitiveness among them, eating disorders can be a way to “stand out” from siblings or sometimes mimic siblings. And there can be an inner conflict between the desire to be individuals and the fear of separation. Bottom line: it doubly sucks when one or both twins has an eating disorder.
So how do you solve this? First off, as with anybody with any mental issue, it cannot just “be solved”. I think its best to first treat the individual. Although I’m sure twins have their own version of ESP that others will never get the luxury of having with other people, when one twin has a problem, only that individual twin needs his/her own treatment separate from the other’s treatment. Each twin needs to find her unique qualities that are different from her sister and own it. I know, this is so much easier said then done, but to be honest, I think I’d know more about what might help if I were actually a twin. If Lori or Michelle would like to chime in on what they think would be helpful for twins with issues like this.
So what do you think about twins and eating disorders? Coincidence? Connection? And to be silly (because he need to laugh at least once from one of my posts), if you had a twin, what would you make her/him do for you?
Since I started my new job, I thought I’d ween their kids off packaged snacks by making some homemade snacks. And oh man, I’m never letting anyone get a “mall pretzel” again!!!!
Preheat oven to 475 degrees
In a large bowl, whisk together water and yeast. Stir in the sugar and set aside 1-2 minutes until the mixture is foamy. Stir in 3 cups of the flour. Begin kneading the dough, adding additional flour until it is soft, but not at all sticky. On a lightly floured surface, roll a palm-sized ball of dough into a long rope, approximately 12 inches long. Cross top of the “U “. Twist the dough around itself. Pull the top, twisted part down and pinch it into place near the bottom half of the pretzel. Remove any extra pieces of dough from the bottom half of the pretzel. Gently tug the pretzel out, keeping the dough from getting too fat at any point. Set aside on a lightly floured surface and allow to rise slightly while you finish twisting the other pretzels.
Bring water and baking soda to a rolling boil in a large saucepan. Gently place pretzels in soda bath for 10 seconds on each side or until they float. Remove, brush with butter and sprinkle with coarse kosher salt.