- Ignore it: This only works if you are dealing with people that don’t have constructive criticism.
- Respond: I respond to each even “semi” mean comment with how I felt about what they said.
- Have a Confidant: We all need someone that we can run to when people are being mean. When we were kids, it was our mommy. Now as adult it’s your spouse or your most trusted girl friend. You need that person that you can tell what is happening and they can be the voice of reason and talk you off the ledge. They are a necessary part of blogging and once you share your woes, and wallow in it together, they will help you see the humor and push you forward so you can move on.
- Don’t take it personal: I put it out there. I need to have a thick skin. Remember that whether you like it or not you’ve created an online persona. Unfortunately people have the audacity to believe they know who you are as a person based on what they read online. Of course that isn’t the case. Someone may dislike you because of your religion, or because they are reminded of someone they disliked, or just because they are having a bad day. Deal with the situation by refusing to let mean remarks seep in and affect your character as a person.
- Can’t win them all: There is no way I can win every reader over every time. I am not going to try either.
Keep in mind that the majority of the time nice comments will over power mean comments. Living in fear of mean comments is no reason to prevent yourself from having an online outlet.
How do you deal?
Ok, enough tough stuff…..Food!!!!!
For these cupcakes (also entered for my cupcake competition) you will need:
1 1/8 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 cup almond meal
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon cinnamon
1/8 teaspoon ground cloves
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup coconut milk
3/4 cup granulated sugar
1/3 cup oil
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/4 cup melted chocolate
1/2 cup finely diced fresh figs (about 2 whole figs), or 1/3 cup chopped dried figs
In a large bowl, sift together flour, almond meal, baking powder, baking soda, spices, and salt.Whisk together coconut milk sugar, melted chocolate, oil, and extract. Add, the egg and then proceed to add a third of the mix at a time until all the dry and wet ingredients. Fold in fig. Fill cupcake liners with about 3 tablespoons of batter (cups should be just under 2/3 of the way full). Bake for 22-25 minutes or until set, and toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Transfer to cooling rack and allow to cool completely.
For the ricotta frosting you will need….
- 8 ounces of ricotta (drained with a paper towel or cheese cloth for a few hours or overnight to get the excess water out)
- 1 stick of butter (1/2 c)
- 2 tsp vanilla extract
- 2 cups of powdered sugar
Mix but butter mixture with a mixer until creamed. Then proceed to add in the ricotta until they cream together nicely. Add the extract and powdered sugar until well combined. It should look something like this when your done. Frost away!
And maybe dust with some cocoa powder