Sometimes, people in our lives come to the rescue int tumultous times. And now that the holiday season is creeping up on us (ugh yea…how is it already mid December???I’m still in August….of 09!), we are in a “giving” mood. This time of year makes even the penny pinchers shell out something, even if its not money, to help others. Or at the very least, give someone, anyone a gift.
After my dad’s brain hemorrhage, so many awesome people have stepped up to the plate to make his and my life a little less stressful. They have donated invaluable things like patience, composure (because I sure as hell was lacking that at times), time, and most importantly, their love.
My dad has two very close friends. One has been his “BFF” since they were born. Seriously, their mom’s were BFF’s way back in my dad’s hometown in Antwerp, Belgium. Since then, he ended up in Israel and my dad ended up in Los Angeles. They always kept in touch and saw each other maybe three times a year (usually, my dad would go to Israel and see him). But when he heard about my father’s hemorrhage, he asked no questions and flew out here to be with him for a week.
The other friend is my dad’s work colleague. Ironically, he also lives in Israel but he comes to LA so often, I suggest to him a few months ago he simply live here and go visit Israel every so often. Anyhow, just like his childhood BFF, he packed his bags and within days of the whole brain hemorrhage fiasco, was here to help my dad in any way he could.
My dad is blessed to have friends like that.
The thing is, these awesome friends left today. So its really hitting me how much they helped in my dad’s recuperat ion.
And you know what? Those people deserve some shout outs.
So this post is to for them, for being a sort of “stand-in” parent when I desperately needed some guidance and reassurance that I used to rely on my dad for. And since I’m in the mood for shout outs, I thought I’d give some other people that have helped me tremendously during this time some recognition.
A shout-out to Abby. I know she would have dropped everything and fly out to LA to help me if she could. But she called and texted me in times I felt most afraid, just kind of to help ground me and gather myself. And most importantly,reminding me to take care of myself first. Wise a woman. A defunct, sleep deprived, hungry Eden would not make a good care-taker for my dad.
A shout out to my dad’s “doctor” friend (basically, my dad’s good friend who also is a doctor). Honestly, this man may have saved my dad. He was the one who initially noticed something was wrong and helped me take him to the ER. He stood by my dad in the ER until they got him a room at the ICU. And most importantly, he translated the medical gibberish to English for me and always kept me informed. Promising never to sugar-coat anything for me. Oh yea, and he baked my dad challah. So yes, big shout out to him.
My dietitian. You may remember my post a while back about my dietitian. To be honest, I haven’t seen her in a while. Not that I’m avoiding help or that I don’t like her, it’s just that I don’t exactly need a dietitian at this point. But as I’ve mentioned in that post, she has been more than a dietitian to me. I know it may go over that whole “controversial professional/client” boundary, but screw it. She has always taken my calls when I needed emotional support (and not during her work hours) and I know I’m like the daughter she never had. Anyhow, she has been checking up on me and how I’m dealing with all of the hoopla a few times a week. So a shout out to her as well.
A shout out to tbs. For providing me with the Office, Family Guy, and some other comedies to at least keep me smiling a bit while all the drama was going on. Even if I already knew the episodes by heart…..
A shout out to Sophia, who also was texting me daily to check up on me and even though I didn’t want the attention, for mentioning what happened on her own blog. At least people would maybe understand why I haven’t been commenting on their blogs lately.
And finally, a shout out to each and every one of you that dropped me a line, email, or text. Seriously, I used to think my ED kept me ticking, but I think its honestly my blog and the friends I’ve made on it that preserved my sanity. I would name every single one of you, but there were a lot of comments that day, but you know who you are. A giant XXXXXL shout out to you. I never get much for Christmas (you know, being a Jew and all) but you have all given me the best present I could have asked: your support and kind wishes. Plus, I don’t have to stand in line and return anything. Nope, I’m sure as hell holding on to this gift!
Anybody you’d like to give a shout out too? Who (or what) was there for you when you were going through a rough patch. Say it here.
So as I was most of the day with my dad, I decided to make him some “good for you” granola, chock full of walnuts and flaxseeds (which is apparently very good for brain function). This also is a small batch so it wont hang around you kitchen and go bad.
2 cups rolled oats
1/4 ground flax seed
1/2 cup raw walnuts, roughly chopped
1/4 cup unsweetened apple sauce
1 tsp cinnamon
4 dates, chopped
3 tbs walnut oil (or olive or canola oil, I happened to find a bottle in my dad’s pantry)
2 tablespoon honey (or other sweetener, use more if you like it sweeter)
1 tbsp vanilla
Preheat the oven to 400* chop the dates, and mix the walnut oil, honey, applesauce, vanilla and cinnamon. Pour it into the oat and walnut mixture and stir until well coated. Spread onto a baking sheet but keep stirring the granola every few minutes. It goes from perfect to burnt really fast. Between 5 minute intervals, stir the granola around to ensure even browning. Cool the granola on the pan and stir in the cranberries and then store in an air tight container in the freezer.