I’ll be honest, I wasn’t going to post tonight.
I’m stressed and I haven’t even engaged in my daily “blog rounds”. I know I’ve mentioned this before, but they dont excite me like they used to. Nothing personal, its just my blog reading mojo is low.
But as I sat stewing in my living room, waiting for my next meal to commence, I decided to write a post about what blogger tend to never talk about.
But the list of what bloggers rarely talk about it long, so I just chose one thing. I wasn’t sure what to call that “thing” so I decided on this title: The Comment Ping-Pong.
Let me explain it to you.
Lets face it, if you have blog, you write comments. It may be one or many, but you comment. You may visit some blogs daily or weekly, but at some point, you will comment somewhere.
I feel there is an unspoken blogger-to-blogger tennis game, of sorts…
You leave a comment on some blog, and you hope they click on your url and possibly write something back. What generally happens is that they check your blog out, skim a little, and write a blurb because they feel they should since you commented on theirs. It looks like this:
“Hey! Ha, I love over-night oats too! You are SO creative for putting cinnamon in it! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog!” (I know what your thinking, but a little sarcasm never hurt anybody 😉 )
Then you proceed to go back and visit them and then they go back to you and so on and so on….like a ping-pong game.
But you know what? It could very well be that you barely even read each others blog. You just feel the need to “return the comment” and so this tennis game begins. And then if a few posts go by and they didn’t comment, you get offended. Lets hope not.
What also tends to happen with the REALLY popular blogs is that you will comment, day after day, year after year, possibly, and those bloggers will never view your site, let alone comment.
Who knows. Maybe they are genuinely too busy, or they have too many commenters to keep up with, or maybe they do read your blog but have nothing to say. Or maybe they just dont give a shit about anybody else. I won’t blame them.
I know, your probably feeling offended, right? Well, I’ll take this brief moment to defend myself.
I don’t comment all the time. I am not a new blogger eager to publicisze my blog so I dont have that “must-comment-on-every-blog syndrome”. Plus, I don’t like playing this blogger comment ping-pong game. In fact, suck at ping-pong so I’m not even trying to play it in any sort of form. The way I see it, people who comment on my blog regularly obviously like what I have to say (or maybe they don’t but at least they are interested in it). Lately, with my dad’s health issues, I’ve come to realize how I don’t have much to say about oatmeal/quinoa/pumpkin anything… I’m busy, but I have faith the people who do comment on my blog understand what I’m going through and know I’m not playing comment ping pong. When I get the chance, I’ll comment, and if I dont, so be it. The blogosphere will go on if I dont return a comment or two, hell or seventeen. That is, if I even manage to get seventeen comments
So…..Do you find yourself playing this “comment ping-pong”? Do you feel the need to comment on those that left comments on your site? And if your just a reader or lurker, what triggers a de-lurking? Also, I’m think of making this “Stuff Bloggers Don’t Talk About” a regular series, so yay or nay? Dont be shy, I can take it.
Yes, I know, I have no recipe. Sorry but life got in the way today. And you know what, sometimes it should.