Very special post I have for you today. My good friend Abby and I decided we are so cool, that we would swap our blog spaces. So I will be doing a guest post on her blog, “I Have Issues” , and she wrote one for mine. She’s pretty damn awesome and I’m honored she let me do a post swap. Without further ado, I give you Abby…..
First of all, my name is Abby and “I Have Issues.” No, seriously, that’s the name of my blog. Eden has become one of my favorite bloggers, so I was honored that she asked to do a post-swap with me (that sounds much dirtier than it is.) Anyway, I often ramble on about food, exercise and life in general, but today I decided to talk a bit about what we’re doing right now—blogging.
(I’m also chewing gum at the same time, so this could get tricky)
Anyway, let’s be honest. We all like a little attention now and then, whether it’s someone commenting on a blog post or noticing we took the time to actually curl (or wash) our hair. When it comes to blogs, people often claim they only do it for themselves and that they really don’t care about comments.
I believe that to a point, but for the most part I think bloggers view comments as some sort of measure of success. There are posts or topics we write about that get no comments at all, and so we wonder what we did wrong. We might get a little rush of excitement or pride when a comment hits close to home and someone “gets” it. We might get peeved with rude remarks, but that’s only natural.
While I was this way about comments when I started blogging, I’ve since come to the conclusion that it’s quality over quantity. I would much rather write something thought-provoking, honest or intriguing and get three thoughtful comments than write something I just think people want to read and get a bunch of, “Yum!” or “I agree!” comments.
But that’s just me, and I Have Issues.
Anyway, I decided to kind of categorize the different types of comments I’ve seen on the “active” blogs. Tell me if I missed one…
Nice To Meet You
I’ll start with the best first, as people who respond with a thoughtful or insightful reply are like gold to someone who actually put time and effort into their post. The main reason so many people blog is to create a sense of community, so knowing that others out there understand what you’re feeling or offers up a point for discussion is what makes it all worthwhile. It’s through these types of comments—and genuine interest—that relationships are formed and friends are made! That sounded cheesy, but you get my point.
Link Love Gone Wrong
One of the things they always tell people starting blogs to do is to comment on other blogs. This is great advice as you do expose yourself to new readers and get your name out there. But it’s so obvious at times that you came to leave the link and not the comment.
If the comment does nothing more than include how they wrote a similar post or are hosting some fantastic giveaway, that’s a giveaway in itself and it’s annoying. Once in awhile it’s not a big deal, but when you see the same name with the same link in the same comment on a bunch of blogs, it’s rather lame.
The Cheerleader Comment
I can go two ways with this one (that also sounds much dirtier than it is.) While I’m not a fan of “I agree” comments that really don’t say anything, I do realize that sometimes people just want to share that they liked/didn’t like the post. Nothing more, nothing less. That’s great and I appreciate any feedback, so don’t take this the wrong way.
But many of the “big” bloggers get hundreds of comments on a post that contains nothing more than a few pictures of a bowl of oatmeal and a short description of their morning. More power to them, but I often get the feeling that the comments left are there more to latch on to a piece of that blogger’s success and get “noticed” than to actually contribute to a conversation. It’s kind of like the cliquey middle school thing in that if the blogger is popular and you leave a comment complimenting them every single post, by process of assimilation, you too will become famous and loved by all.
The ironic thing is that the “big” bloggers rarely ever leave comments on other blogs…food for thought, no?
Too Much Time On Their Hands
I don’t always write what people want to read, in that some of the stuff I touch upon can probably spark strong feelings of both a positive and a negative nature. I like discussion and I like different perspectives. However, what I don’t like is when you can tell a commenter is simply writing something to get a reaction.
They will leave some asinine comment that really has nothing to do with your post, just to create a bit of drama they crave for some ungodly reason. “I hate cute kittens!” on a post about pasta is obviously not constructive criticism. I usually just ignore these people, as they just want attention, something I refuse to give to them (along with cute kittens and pasta, if the opportunity for either arose.)
Finally, we come to the anonymous commenter. I’ll be honest and say I’ve never had one. On some level I’m a bit disappointed, as it seems like everyone else has had some experience with this, but not me. Most of the time the anonymous comment is of a negative nature, as people don’t want to reveal their “real” identity and face blogger backlash (see “Cheerleader Comments” above and don’t piss them off.)
But it’s also a possibility that people just want to protect their privacy online. People could be using a made up name other than “Anonymous” and you would never know—that’s the nature of the Internet.
Personally, I’ve never left an anonymous comment either. While there have been times I’ve been tempted, I’m kind of tech-stupid and convinced they would somehow be able to trace the comment back to me and show up on my doorstep heavily armed.
Now let’s practice what we discussed and leave the lovely Eden a comment or two, shall we? Did I leave any out? Why do you read Eden’s fabulous blog?