Curried Yellow Split Pea Soup and A Diagnosis

Pathology from my dad’s brain tumor came back. As I suspected, my dad has the worst kind of brain cancer you can get. Stage 4 Glioblastoma.

Is this a death sentence? Well, kind of. Its a VERY fast growing tumor. Sure, the surgeon seemed to have removed all visible tumors, but they grow so fast; who knows where we will be in a few months.

There is no cure. But some treatments can prolong life a little bit (I’m thinking at best a year). The plan is radiation, chemo, and this new clinical trial vaccine. If anyone out there knows of some other breakthrough, let me know.

I suppose this is better than having a parent die suddenly. I guess at least I know the hell I’ll endure.

Right now, I want to make my dad as happy as possible. I put on a strong face for him. I encourage him and try to stay positive when I’m in his presence. But I go home, hug my stuffed animal to the point its inner fluff starts coming out, and cry my eyes out.

If you’re wondering about the future of “Eden’s Eats”, I will for sure still post. I will not lose my snark (at least I hope not). It may not be puppies and rainbows but is life ever? If there is anything my dad would want me to do its continue the blog. He knows it meant a lot to me and he was so happy when I made it to the foodbuzz blogger festival. Plus, I can go back and read all the posts I’ve written about my dad and this experience and this truly will make him live forever.

Anyhow, I just wanted to tell you all what these next few months might look like. Do my a favor and please live EVERY moment as if you were told your life may be cut short. Hug those you love, don’t take anything for granted, and remember, food is so good so don’t waste your time dieting.

I’ve been feeling awful that I haven’t posted a recipe lately, so here a bowl of comfort:

  • 2 tablespoons butter/olive oil/coconut butter
  • 1 tablespoon chopped garlic
  • 1 small/medium chopped onion
  • 1 lb yellow split peas, rinsed
  • 5 cups vegetable or chicken broth
  • 1-2 tablespoons curry powder (I used 2 tbsp but you can use just 1 tbsp)
  • dash of cinnamon
  • 1/2 tsp cumin
  • 1/2 tbs powdered or freshly grated ginger
  • dash of nutmeg
  • 1/2 tbs Kosher salt

Directions:

Place the butter/oil in a large saucepan over medium high heat. When the butter starts to melt, add the onions until they “sweat” and then add the garlic. Stir frequently until the garlic starts to brown slightly.

Add the split peas and all the spices to the pan and stir well with the garlic (and onions). Add the vegetable broth and bring it to a boil. Reduce heat to low, cover and cook at a simmer until the peas are tender and no longer hold their shape, about 45-60 minutes (or even longer). Tastes real nice with a dollop of greek yogurt. Make double the batch and freeze it! It freezes beautifully.

 

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50 thoughts on “Curried Yellow Split Pea Soup and A Diagnosis

  1. Seriously Eden, I admire you to no ends for the way you are handling the situation. I really don’t have anything meaningful to tell you, but stay strong and reach out whenever you feel like you need something. On a lighter note, there is something about soup of any kind that makes it comfort in a bowl…

  2. I don’t know what to say Eden. I’m so sorry you have to go through something so horrible and sad. I really want to give you a hug right now…. btw, is there anything you need/want from Australia? I want to send you a package really :)

    I will keep praying for a miracle/cure to happen, heck, it can be my birthday wish of the year really, for your dad to live a much longer and healthier life.

  3. I’m at a loss for words.

    I know how you’re feeling when someone your extremely close to is extremely ill as I went through this myself last year. But my words fail me right now on how to put across the support I wish I could give you.

    In my thoughts xx

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  5. Eden I am so, so, sorry. There are no words that can express my deepest sympathies for you and your dad and all that you must be going thru right now. Your world has been turned upside down. And it’s only going to continue and I just want you to know that if you need anything, I am here. I just posted asking my readers to pray for your dad and send some good vibes your way.

    xoxo

  6. I can only express my admiration for you and your strength: I struggle to deal with so much irrelevant, self-created trouble and yet you manage to display such courage in the face of something that no-one should have to deal with so early on in life.

    I wish there was something I could post to improve the situation, aside from offering an understanding ear should you ever want to vent anything at all.

    xxx

  7. Eden, you are so strong and wise. Your father is lucky to have you by his side now. Your love for him makes his life richer. I will be here to read each day, to pray for you and your dad, to laugh at your snarks, and to comfort you whenever you need it.
    Consider this a big ‘ol TEXAS virtual hug! <3!!
    LC

  8. Oh Eden, your strength is unbelieveable. I cannot even imagine what your family is going through right now. Thanks for the reminder to live life like it’s our last day every day. Your family is in my prayers!

  9. That soup looks great. Can you believe I’ve never had a split pea soup? Crazy right?

    I am sorry to hear this diagnosis. Maybe the treatments will work better than expected. You really never know. There are new treatments almost daily. I am glad you’ll keep blogging. I think it may help you through this journey. And as always, you’re going to touch lives and help others too.

  10. Eden, I am so sorry. My heart just breaks for you. I know you have the strength you need to get through this and to be there for your dad. I’ll continue praying for you both, and seriously, if there is anything at all you need, say the word.

  11. I have been reading your blog for some time now but have never commented. I’m so sorry to hear about your father’s diagnosis, and I really admire the way you are handling the situation. Like Heather said above, sometimes the treatments work better than expected. I have a friend whose father was fighting brian cancer and was given a prognosis of 9 months. Instead, he fought it off for 23 months. You and your father are in my thoughts.

  12. I’m a new reader–I’ve had good friends pass from glioblastoma BUT a friend’s mom is in a clinical trial (I believe) at Duke and is doing VERY well, and has been for several years. I’d be happy to connect you if you’d like. As someone who’s very close to her dad, my heart is aching for you. I hope you and your family find strength and courage during this very difficult time.

  13. Eden, the composure you’re handling this with, is exceptional. And your continuing to post is a huge gift to your readers, reminding us what really does matter.
    Wishing you lots of strength, and the peace of mind, knowing that you definitely are doing the best for your Dad.

  14. Sorry again to hear about your father! You are doing great in the midst of it all :) We are so proud and yes not taking life for granted and enjoy being with loved ones is something we try to do everyday :) Thanks for the reminder, and I think what you are doing is great, you are so strong! We hope you have a wonderful Saturday beautiful!!!

  15. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis. I have learned that many people are much stronger than they know. Sometimes we go through awful things in life that no one should ever have to go through, and it’s unfair and it’s hard and we don’t know if we can cope. But we can. You are stronger than you realize, and you will be okay. I really hope that there is something that can be done for your dad. I don’t know very much about his type of cancer, but I’m hoping that treatment will help. I’m glad you’re going to keep blogging- I hope it gives you an outlet and maybe an escape. I know you are trying to take care of your dad, but don’t forget to also take care of yourself. I’m thinking of you and your family…I wish there were more I could say or do for you.

  16. I am so sad to hear this diagnosis. I have read how close you are with your dad which is so rare these days! It seems like so many women don’t have good relationships with their fathers and it is a tragedy that you both have to go through this.

    I talked with my husband about your father’s diagnosis. A family friend of his had this same tumor and he survived for around 15 years. He did all of his own research and determined his own treatment for his condition which helped him survive as long as his did. If it would be helpful, I can get you in touch with his wife if she would be willing.

    Also, I worked at the Allen Institute for Brain Science here in Seattle and have actually helped collect data on Glioblastomas. They are conducting a project there, not sure if they have any results yet, but it might be worth looking into and inquiring about. They do some pretty amazing gene expression research that is really ground breaking.

    If there is anything else that I can do and if you would like to get in contact with our family friend, please let me know. She has also been known to ‘adopt’ kids and is a wonderful person. Email me anytime, kofotheringham@gmail.com

    Warmest wishes,
    Korrin

  17. I’m so sorry, Eden. My dad had a glioblastoma. I’ve done a lot of reading and watched a lot of shows on them since then, and they’re still (23 years later) really difficult to deal with. My mom mentioned something about some radioactive seeds they place right at the tumor site; it’s some sort of newer and supposedly more effective treatment that they’re having some progress with. Perhaps you can ask the doctors about that or do some research on your own. If I find anything out about it, I’ll let you know. Take care of yourself.

  18. Eden not really much i can say but my thoughts and wishes go out to your Dad. thank you for telling us all the writings about your dad and your memories. you will have many more to come.

  19. I wouldn’t blame you at all if you were a broken mess that never wanted to blog again! I mean, life has really dealt you some tough cards Eden. I wish with all my heart that your dad could find some kind of treatment that would at least stagnat the cancer, if not cure it….

  20. Oh Eden, I’m so sorry to read about his diagnosis. Your love for your dad will definitely help make him happy. I’m sure he appreciates it more than you will ever know.

    I love your advice. Keeping you in my thoughts.

  21. Eden, I’m so, so sorry. I just wanted to say you are being so strong– your dad raised a wonderful girl.

    As others have said, I’m always here to talk.

    I don’t have much else to offer, except a bit of info. I come from Houston, a city which has some of the best medical teams in the country. Here are two places you might want to check out. MD Anderson is ranked the best cancer center in America.
    http://www.mdanderson.org/
    http://www.mhmni.com/ConditionsTreatments/BrainTumorCenter/content.aspx?id=44

    • Totally agreed on MD Anderson! I’ve worked with them a lot and live about 5 minutes away so, although I’m sure there are plenty of good doctors in LA, I’m here for you if you decide to check it out, anything you need!

      I’m also soo soo sorry to hear the bad news, Eden! I can’t believe how well you’re handling it and am so happy you’re able to take away and share such a powerful message with all of us here in blog world. You are truly incredible and inspiring. No matter what happens, know that your dad has had an amazing and full life because you have been in it. He is very lucky to have you and he has raised an incredible young woman. That means that he’ll never really be gone as long as you are still you. Keep smiling (or snarking :p)! I’m sending big hugs, love, and health vibes across the country xoxox

  22. Oh Eden, once again you have my sympathy. I wish you and your daddy all the best when it comes to treatment. I know you probably feel so incredibly helpless… but your dad is so lucky to have such a strong face on his side.
    Still praying :)

  23. Eden,

    I am so sorry to hear about your father. I unfortunately know all to well some of the emotions that you are feeling right now as I lost my dad to colon cancer in 2007. It sounds like you really are doing the best to cherish the time that you have with him and see the positives that can come from treatment. I really wish you, your father, and the rest of your family strength and all the best in the coming months and years ahead.

  24. my prayers are with you mama. you KNOW i’m here for whatever it is you need at any moment of any day of any time of ANYTHING. love love love love love you to pieces.

  25. You’re an incredible daughter – your father is so lucky to have you. I’m continually astonished with your strength and honesty, and look forward to being (just a minuscule) part of your support system throughout this time. As always, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  26. I just found this post from Averie’s blog, and I want to say that I am SO sorry to hear about your father. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. I’m rooting for your dad, and I hope you and your family get through these tough times.

  27. Oh Eden. I am so so so sorry. I’m going to keep my fingers crossed that maybe the clinical trial vaccine works some miracles and I’ll also keep my ear to the ground for any new developments.

    You are so strong, Eden and I know that you are going to make the rest of your dad’s time as amazing and loving as possible. And really, that is what’s important right now. I adore you and if I can do ANYTHING please let me know!

  28. Eden, you are amazing. I don’t know how you manage to continue posting in this situation. I’m so sorry about the way things turned out. I’m praying for you and your father. Embrace the time you still have, and remember that no matter what, things will be okay. I hope the treatment works to the best of its ability and gives you as much time as possible with your father. We love you!!

  29. Eden, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My father had the same cancer and past away 3years this June. All I can say is cherrish every moment you have with him! You have the right attitude! You and your family will be in my prayers.

  30. Sending you ALL my love, friendship and support. I wish only the BEST for you and your wonderful dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you! You are an amazing woman and your determination to face this is incredible. Know how much your father loves you, and how proud he must be of you Eden.
    Barbara

  31. god, Eden- if there is a “right” thing to say, I wish I could say it, but I don’t have any words. Does it help to know there is a community of bloggers out there who have nothing but love to send your way? Well, there is.
    Hang in there.

  32. i love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i have been mia from blog reading this weekend, sorry i didn’t read this one sooner, it is amazing. seriously–great message–and you have a way to see the good in this shit ass situation. you will never lose your snark and you will always have me here for you!!!!

  33. Hi dear,
    I am so sorry for the trials you and your loved ones are embarking on.
    This is my first visit to the site. I followed a pea soup recipe search and happened by….
    Not being familar with the site….I am supposing you have a real awareness nutrition to some degree. Knowing that, I would suspect that strenghning the body overall is what you might feel compelled to do. I think it would be a wise course of action for sure. As a stronger body can equate to a stronger immune system, etc.
    I have had quite a few opportunites to be familar with cancers and immune problems, both directly and indirectly….A few super-star favorites of mine for body strenghning are…….”Flor-Essence”, “Pau D Arco” and “Oncolyn”. Please consider doing a search on these three and many positive testimonies. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

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